It never ceases to amaze me how the brain can choose to delete whole, entire memories. For example, if an event is too traumatic. Or if it is insignificant and meaningless. A horrific accident, inconceivable abuse, extreme distress. The file is too hard to process, so the brain simply wipes it. A survival technique that… More Memories

Fear and Attraction

The thing about attraction is that it feels exactly the same as fear. The two are interpreted interchangeably, for better or for worse. They trigger the same racing heart, shortness of breath, the very same nervous energy. They draw similar patterns on your brain. Is it entirely possible then that your mind and body is screaming… More Fear and Attraction

Hands Full

she’s had that seed all along, you know. cupped between her hands, day after day, year after year. not a hinderance. precious cargo.   i caught a glimpse of it, once or twice. it glowed. a white-hot ember!   it warmed her face when she peered down at it. it warmed my face from afar.… More Hands Full

Your Glass House

there will come a time when your glass house will shatter around you. you will stand at the entrance like you always do. with the front door open, looking out. the cracks will creep up the walls. ever so slowly. tiny hairline fractures at first. a warning. they will grow. then one day it will… More Your Glass House


Today I had a pap smear…… is probably not the way anyone should ever start a blog post. But stuff your rules. So, today I had a pap smear, and halfway through the doctor paused, peered up at me and proclaimed, “You have a *lovely* cervix!” To which I replied, “Thank you!” Completely chuffed. I had… More Lovely.

What if…

Below is an extract from “The Fine Art of Baloney detection” by Carl Sagan. It is somehow both comforting and deeply disturbing. I don’t believe in life after death, but for some reason I can’t let this go. It’s just a matter of time right? Haldane imagined a far future when the stars have darkened and space is mainly… More What if…